Friends anyone?

So how much would you be willing to pay for a friendship?

Been there through every thick and thin for their sake? Have always been the first one to take charge of their mistakes? Ever stood forward to face what comes in way instead of letting them deal with the same? Ever pushed them aside and gulped the bitterness on their plate all by yourself? 

What if you’ve always been the late comer at your friend’s birthday bash and happily enjoying the same till date? What if you neither remember nor do you celebrate friendship days? What if you barely wish your friend sharp at 12 a happy birthday? What if you could only spare a day in an entire week or might even be twice a week to meet your pal? What if you do not share hours chatting over the phone? What if you haven’t spent a night at your friend’s house till date? What if you do not even post much about each other? What if you only get that mere time of just tagging each other over a few posts? I’d would be definitely lying if I say this isn’t the case in today’s era.

                        So tell me, would you be still willing to maintain this kind of a friendship no wonder till how many years? Would you continue to willingly step forward whenever a message would pop in even at middle of the nights asking you to lend a hand? I’ll tell you what, it is far easy to condemn yes to every such question that seems to be so obvious and it is equally hard as nails to illustrate it right on spot when asked for. 

You think you’re someone’s best companion when you consider yourself as the solution to every problem your friend faces? You think you’re the best when you feel like you’ve pinched your brain enough to find a cure to every pain they suffer? I shall be creating no scope for you to get offended in any way, keeping in mind your perspective on which you have been resting till date, let me just allow you to peep through what a friend with a heart actually craves for rather than a friend with just a mind.

                              Your friend neither needs your instant solutions nor the cures you suggest because see there exists numerous problems and never ending sufferings which every single one of us are meant to deal with all by ourselves, for how long is the person supposed to rely on your medications? All that is needed is a shoulder for that heavy mind to rest for a while, a lap as a pillow for the eyes to breathe for a while, a hand to hold tight and feel safe. You just got to let your ears to every word uttered, because a friend by heart exactly digs out even the unspoken words amidst deep silence isn’t that so?

Is it mandatory to upload what you feel rather than expressing it in a closet manner? What really matters to you? Your friend peeping into your heart or the out-of-the-way people analysing your words and expressing an aww to your bonding? It is okay if you count yourself out when it comes to expressing every now and then, something that even I believe personally, so what you need to know is, that you must be really special who lets a person perceive the emotions keeping apart the illustrations and expressions. This is great I tell you, provided it does anyway, I repeat anyway, reflects what you exactly bear for your friend in your heart and if it doesn’t, then my dear, do me a favour? Do not let that treasure let go of you. You wouldn’t be regretting losing a dozen life partners in your life but you shall definitely deeply regret the moment you lose your endeared companion. You will!

We all need a friend who can stay mute with us in that moment of dashed hopes and difficulty. The one who can happily lend their time and stay awake with us during those hours of misery and misfortune. Who shall not bother of the upcoming consequences, hurdles and thorny routes and shall hold our hand to face the reality of weakness. Don’t we need this? All of this?

So you see, each of the companions we meet, the ones whom we claim to be our friends, they build or they rather demonstrate a world in us; that only comes to light the moment they roll in and it is solely by the grace of this engagement, that a new world comes to life! 

What you failed to come up with, and your friend could safely discover the same in you, that is when the spark of friendship becomes visible. When your friend believes you more than you could ever ask for, that is what you call friendship. That moment when you stand in a corner carrying the bag of all your flaws and mistakes and there comes your buddy, gives you a hug, stands against the world and screams out loud concluding whoever you are you’re the best, that is exactly when you know what the flavour of friendship tastes like. 

So let’s come to an end from where this all started- how much would you be willing to pay for a friendship? A friendship where the other heart denies to walk with you parallely, but also promises to reside with you just the way your shadow does. A friendship that shall follow an entire opposite direction but shall also follow your steps whenever you desire. A friendship that would not call for displaying its colors to the world but splashing those colors on you instead! Are you competent enough to carry with you the tons of weight of the honesty and the loyalty that shall count? If yes then I shall be looking forward to this. 

Shrestha .S. Purkayastha